This is my babble, let me show it to you....

[donutsweeper]

I've been giving a lot of thought to the comment numbers people have been posting and how I'm the top commentator on so many LJs. 

Some made sense- I'm certainly guilty of the occasional (or not so occasional) commentfest with some people- like _medley_ and mad_jaks and unfeathered but others honestly did surprise me, especially on some journals where I was pretty sure I hadn't done much other than squee and comment on stories and answer memes and offer hugs when needed.

If someone on my f-list writes something, and I know the fandom, I read it.  And usually comment on it.  If they're doing a meme and I can participate intelligently, I do.  I thought everyone did that.  But, then I looked at my own list of commentators and the list of those who have friended me and who I've friended back (which I'm terrible at remembering to do, I'll admit that) and how many times various people had commented and realized that, no, few people do. Which sort of surprised me.

Commenting in journals is not a two way street.  Just because I comment in your LJ doesn't mean I expect you to comment in mine.  I'm a little shocked and embarrassed about the numbers that have come about by people doing this meme, but I've decided not to let it affect me.  If I like your writing I don't plan on stopping telling you so.  If you're down I'm not about to quit trying to cheer you up and if you're in need of donuts I will continue to offer them.  I hope that's okay with everyone.  If not, just let me know, I promise not to be offended.

Comments

[unfeathered]

*hugs you*

The fact that you comment so much is not a bad thing at all - it's a wonderful thing, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! I would love to be able to comment as much as you do.

[donutsweeper.livejournal.com]

*hugs back tight* the numbers honestly freaked me out a little, but screw it, people like squee and I'm going to continue to do it

[unfeathered]

I love squee, and I love that I can rely on you to comment on stuff. Don't you dare stop. :-)

[donutsweeper.livejournal.com]

*snuggles* I won't

[phoenix64.livejournal.com]

I've also come to realize that sometimes it really does translate to shyness/social anxiety, just as it works in the rest of our lives. If you go in a person's journal and comment they're more than happy to have a conversation with you, but it can be hard for them to make an "unsolicited" comment in someone else's journal.

I don't have that problem so much online as I do face to face, and the way I see it if I've written a post you can read then I'm soliciting comments, but I try and respect that it's more difficult for some people. I have been in danger of taking it personally at times, but I take everything personally. :)

Also, just so there are no misunderstandings: I don't write fic or make icons or post any great amount of content. I realize this is going to result in a different relationship with the other fannish people I like. That's OK.

[itsarift-thing.livejournal.com]

Look I told you about this last night! We LOVE and ADORE your generosity of spirit.
There's loads of stuff I would NEVER have written if I hadn't partaken in a commentfest with you. Ideas that have sparked and grown in the dim reccesses of my brain simply because I've spotted you and Medley have commentfested overnight while I was asleep.
And, come to that days - especially recently - I would simply not have got through without you being there when I've got home at lunchtime to offer me support.

Short version Next time I do a comment check I expect to find you still right there leading the pack. Or Else!

[donutsweeper.livejournal.com]

very good point. in RL I'm fairly shy, but here I blither on and on. There's something about fandom in particular that I just can't shut up about. Somehow, I hadn't realized you didn't write. Maybe that's why I haven't wound up on your LJ that often

[donutsweeper.livejournal.com]

*hugsies* I know, I know. And I promise not to stop any time soon, this is just a post I had to make to work out things in my head and make sure no one felt differently.

but, be honest, you're always a little afraid the evil club's going to gang up on you....

[itsarift-thing.livejournal.com]

Hey I'm spamming - who cares? How far back does it count? I mean, has fandom_me done it? Because we totally blitzed her journal that time, didn't we? Her comment count for that journal would be phenomenal.

[itsarift-thing.livejournal.com]

Yes I live in fear any time I see more than two Evil Club memebers commneting in the same thread - I'm pretty sure Medley and you must feel the same way...

[donutsweeper.livejournal.com]

no, as far as I've seen Becky hasn't done it for any of her journals.. With the 5k fest done there her counts probably incredible. Although Terry started a 5k and that should have mucked with the count, but I was still on top there

[donutsweeper.livejournal.com]

We rarely gang up on her though.... *puts on thinky cap*

[kensieg.livejournal.com]

Fine by me!

[kensieg.livejournal.com]

you make fandom brighter for me with your squee and your donuts!!

[chatona.livejournal.com]

... Did I get that right? Did you just tell people you wouldn't be offended if they wanted you to stop commenting?

Uhm. I think. I think everyone loves the comments. At least I do. A-and I usually try and comment on every entry I can in any way relate to on my flist, but lately haven't and. I'm sorry!

You're right, though. It isn't really a two way street. Sometimes, that makes me sad.

[donutsweeper.livejournal.com]

well, yeah- I mean, not everyone necessarily wants babbling in their LJ, right? (Or I assume as much) I'd rather someone just give me a nudge and say 'you're nice, but sometimes a little too much' than get weird 'shut the hell up' vibes or something.

and you've school and vacations and things which makes it hard to comment. RL can be a killer to LJ!

[donutsweeper.livejournal.com]

*g* thanks!

[chatona.livejournal.com]

... weeeeeeeeell. Uhm. M-maybe? I can't really imagine anyone not loving the babble, but I'm me and I do love the babble a whole lot, so... Yeah. Anyways, I love the babble! Just so you know! I'm always happy about it!

Yeah, RL is evil like that and it just takes priority over eljay. Sad times!

[donutsweeper.livejournal.com]

the world is a wide place filled with all sorts of differences, right?

I love babbling with you- all those Tony conversations!

[chatona.livejournal.com]

... Yes. Good point! You're right, of course :D

There can never be enough babble about Tony! There's one boy worth babbling about! *obligatory Tony!icon*

[donutsweeper.livejournal.com]

thank you!

[donutsweeper.livejournal.com]

Gotta love the Tony!icons!!!

hmmm, so few partially dressed ones of him out there though, which is no fair

[chatona.livejournal.com]

There should be more naked or half-naked Tony. Definitely. I see you have a Tony/donut icon! I approve.

[donutsweeper.livejournal.com]

mad_jaks made it for me after seeing the episode the scene aired in (5x02 I think) I ♥ the fact Tony loves donuts in canon.

Other than the few scenes with Jeanne in S4 and the episode undercovers (where he's in his boxers jumping on the bed) there really aren't any shirtless Tony scenes. It's no fair

[snakewhissperer.livejournal.com]

I did too when i started- i'm still mostly that way. Chatterbox to the end i guess!

i for one love and cherish any feedback on fic- as long as its positive or constructive negative (but thats not an issue with you) and i very much appreciate it. *hug*